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Coping with Another Tough Winter

by Brad Stulberg / GO.com

Posted: January 22, 2022

5 strategies from the latest research in psychology, neuroscience, and sociology that have a lot to say about getting through hard times…

Editor's Note: Here we go again! It's the middle of winter for many of us and it's too early to even dream of spring. So, how do you cope when the skies are dreary, the days cold, perhaps you've had more than your fill of snow and slush? In several recent columns on SeniorLifestyle other writers have adressed the topic. Adding to their voices and their advice for coping is the following excerpt from Brad Stulberg, which appeared on go.com January 14. You'll find a link to the full article at the bottom of the page with links to additional reserach..


Last May, I compared the COVID-19 pandemic to a grueling marathon. I've come to see that was not quite right: when you're out running, no matter how hard it is, you know you're done after 26.2 miles. But since the pandemic began two years ago, the finish line keeps moving. Now the ultra-contagious Omicron variant is raging across the country. Hospitals and schools are overwhelmed—and you might be feeling absolutely fried even if you're not a nurse or a teacher. 

For some ideas for how to think about this latest phase of the pandemic, I went to the latest research in psychology, neuroscience, and sociology, as well as traditional teachings and age-old wisdom. This is the thinking behind groundedness, and idea I developed for my book The Practice of Groundedness, an instruction manual for developing the internal strength and fortitude to sustain you through ups and downs. If resilience is about bouncing back, groundedness is about holding your ground, about not getting knocked down during hardships and challenges.

If there ever was a time to prioritize these values, this winter sure seems to be it. The following principles might help serve as a guide for what (knock wood) will hopefully be the last long winter of this pandemic.

Be Patient

A little less than five years ago I was quite sick for eight months. I struggled to have more than two decent days in a row—often it was more like two decent hours. During this period, it seemed like my situation was going to last forever. It was hard to see any way out. . . .

[T]his winter you must be prepared to dig in and persist—but you can also take solace knowing that if you can get through the long days now, this challenging period won’t feel like forever later on. Much like a marathoner takes things one mile and one step at a time, it is important to take things one day at a time. The days may feel long now, but eventually—at least according to the science—the season will feel short.

Lower the Bar

When things don’t go our way, we tend to default to magical thinking, convincing ourselves we’re in a better place than we are. Social scientists call this motivated reasoning, or our propensity not to see things clearly, but instead as we’d like them to be. The only problem is that when reality catches up to us, which it always does, the hangover can be rough.

Longstanding research shows that your mood at any given point in time is a function of your reality minus your expectations. The greater the mismatch between too-rosy expectations and reality, the worse you’ll feel. It is probably wise, then, to expect this winter to be extremely hard, and let yourself be pleasantly surprised if it’s not. . . .

[D]o everything you can to savor the positive moments in your own life right now—be it a home-cooked meal, a good workout, or the support you find in friendships. To be clear, this is not about being a Pollyanna; it is about avoiding despair, which rarely, if ever, is a useful emotion.

Just Get Going

It's easy to feel that you need to feel good to get going: to wait for motivation or inspiration to strike. But it turns out it’s actually the opposite that is true: you need to get going to give yourself a chance at feeling good. In the literature this is called behavioral activation, and its effectiveness to enhance mood is backed by hundreds of studies. . . .

The best way out is to force yourself to get going, even—and perhaps especially—when you don’t feel like it. This is a powerful mindset shift. When you feel down or apathetic, you can give yourself permission to feel those feelings (repression never helped anyone) but not dwell on them and do not take them as destiny. Instead, focus on getting started with what you have planned in front of you. Doing so gives you the best chance at feeling better.

Practice Self-Compassion

It takes fierce self-discipline to keep showing up during hard times, which is precisely why fierce self-compassion is necessary too.Research shows that being kind to yourself and giving yourself the benefit of the doubt supports courage, resilience, and unwavering strength. Being a human is hard under any circumstances, especially these. When I find myself judging myself too harshly I use that as a cue to pause and repeat the mantra: This is what is happening right now, I’m doing the best I can. . . .

Practicing self-compassion is about feeling whatever you are feeling—without the judgement. It is okay to have good days and it is okay to have bad days. 

Make Meaning on The Other Side

During hardship it can be helpful to release from any sense of this has to be meaningful or I need to make the most out of this in favor of being kind to yourself, being where you are, and just getting through. If you pay close attention to what is happening inside of you during these liminal phases, and do so without judgment, the right choices and actions tend to emerge on their own. Gradually, you progress from disorder to reorder.

We tend to look back on challenging periods of disorder in a much more productive and meaningful light than we experience them. In other words, sometimes growth doesn’t happen until you get to the other side, and that’s okay. During especially rough stretches, there is no need to put extra pressure on yourself to “make the most of things.” When you are in the thick of it, your job can be as simple, and as hard, as just getting through.


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