Maintaining connections with other people is a major factor in optimal aging.  In this section, a number of contributors share their ideas and research on maintaining healthy relationships and establishing new ones. 

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LGBTQ(IA+) and B-I-B-L-E by James N. Watkins

(June 3, 2022)
At the beginning of Pride Month, Jim revisits the issue of gender identity and what the Bible (not religious groups) says about it…
Topics: Attitudes Beliefs Bible Civility God Jesus Racism and Inequality Relationships Social Issues Social Movements

Kindness: You Look and You'll See It by Garrison Keillor

(May 6, 2022)
Finding kindness in the face of showboating righteousness…
Topics: Animals Comfort & Consolation Family Relationships

Enough of That, Let's Talk About Happiness by Garrison Keillor

(April 21, 2022)
To create laughter out of ordinary tedium is a privilege. There’s nothing better.…
Topics: Communication Contentment, Satsifaction Humor Relationships

Forget About Nut Cases, Let's Talk About What's Real by Garrison Keillor

(April 14, 2022)
There’s a lot of gossip and envy and animosity out there, don’t kid yourself, so all the more reason to hold fast to your friends…
Topics: Communication Family Optimal Aging Relationships

Love, Marriage, Sex . . . by James N. Watkins

(February 10, 2022)
Jim updates his annual list of top posts, cartoons, and a video for Valentine's Day 2022…
Topics: Communication Compassion Contemplation, Insight Holidays Humor Love Relationships Social Issues Valentine's Day

Two Suggestions for Dealing with So-Called 'Conceited' People by Ken Potts

(August 28, 2021)
It's a matter of perspective…
Topics: Attitudes Communication Coping Psychology, Psychological Health Relationships

Love the One You're With by Ken Potts

(August 20, 2021)
Over the life of a marriage, we may become attracted to other people…
Topics: Character, Integrity Choices and Decision Making Circumstances, Life Events Contentment, Satsifaction Discipline Optimal Aging Relationships Risk Values

Ways to Strengthen Your Relationship by Amy Fleming / The Guardian

(July 30, 2021)
Take nothing for granted, communicate clearly – and say something nice every single day…
Topics: Attitudes Communication Love Relationships

My Father's Hands by Linda Schwartz / Reflections

(July 8, 2021)
Unleashing a floodgate of memories…
Topics: Character, Integrity Family Father's Day Memories Optimal Aging Parenting, Parents Relationships Values

You're Apologizing All Wrong by Simran Sethi / Life Kit

(June 19, 2021)
Here's how to say sorry the right way…
Topics: Advice, Guidance & Mentoring Attitudes Character, Integrity Communication Learning Relationships

With Praise to 'St. Arbucks' by Greg Asimakoupoulos

(June 7, 2021)
. . . and the fellowship so many find there…
Topics: Business Communication Coping COVID-19 Faith Friends & Neighbnors History Lifestyle, General Personal Issues Relationships Social Activities

The Best Way to Make New Friends is to Be a Friend by Ken Potts

(June 5, 2021)
The answer to a pre-teen's question applies to all of us, no matter our age…
Topics: Attitudes Change Communication Friends & Neighbnors Lifestyle, General Relationships Social Activities Wellness

Humble Thoughts on 'Gay Pride' by James N. Watkins

(June 4, 2021)
June is “Gay Pride” month. So, this month—and every month—I want to honor God and his Word while loving my LGBTQ(IA+) friends…
Topics: Civility Communication Compassion Current Events, News Diversity & Pluralism Faith History Racism and Inequality Relationships Social Issues Social Movements

Sometimes Grandma Gets in Your Face by Barbara Greenleaf

(May 21, 2021)
A granddaughter is moved from annoyance to laughter…
Topics: Communication Family Grandchildren Humor Parenting, Parents Relationships

Parenting vs Grandparenting by Barbara Greenleaf

(May 13, 2021)
Turning the tables from one generation to the next…
Topics: Change Discipline Family Generosity Grandchildren Parenting, Parents

Today's Mothers Are Worker Bees by Barbara Greenleaf

(May 7, 2021)
Moms may feel they are never doing enough, but for many their children beg to differ…
Topics: Circumstances, Life Events Family Holidays Lifestyle, General Mother's Day Parenting, Parents Relationships Trends Work

Shadowbox of the Heart by Linda Schwartz / Reflections

(May 7, 2021)
A tribute to a mother's life…
Topics: Family Holidays Mother's Day Parenting, Parents Relationships Tribute, Testimony

Happy Mother's Day! by James N. Watkins

(April 30, 2021)
'Faith of Our Mothers,' 'Top ten things my mother taught me' and more of Jim's favorites for moms and parents in general…
Topics: Family Holidays Mother's Day Parenting, Parents Relationships

Coming Out by James N. Watkins

(April 9, 2021)
My sexual identity crisis…
Topics: Choices and Decision Making Current Events, News Faith Family God Grace Loneliness Loss & Grieving Relationships Social Issues Values

Zooming in On Someone Else by George Garrison

(April 1, 2021)
A Maundy Thursday look at what the pandemic has done to the way we focus our lives…
Topics: Civility Communication Contemplation, Insight COVID-19 Easter Faith Love Relationships

Finding Their Way by Barbara Greenleaf

(March 27, 2021)
Young people discovering their place in life. An excerpt from Barbara's teen novel, Good-to-Go Cafe…
Topics: Family Future Grandchildren Hopes & Dreams Learning Opportunity Relationships Work

Is There Such a Thing as Love at First Sight in Real Life? by Ken Potts

(March 17, 2021)
Successful marriages are a complex mix of factors…
Topics: Circumstances, Life Events Family Holidays Hopes & Dreams Love Relationships Valentine's Day

Happy International Women's Day by James N. Watkins

(March 8, 2021)
Jim shares his favorite posts celebrating women…
Topics: Faith Family Gratitute Leadership Love Relationships Tribute, Testimony Wisdom

The Gift of Influence by Leona Bergstrom

(March 5, 2021)
Every woman has a story to tell…
Topics: Communication Inspiration Optimal Aging Relationships Tribute, Testimony Trust

Grace, Grit and Giggles by Leona Bergstrom

(February 12, 2021)
A recipe for a successful second-half marriage…
Topics: Holidays Inspiration Love Relationships Valentine's Day

Love, a Word Often Overused by Ken Potts

(February 11, 2021)
. . . but it is seldom understood…
Topics: Communication Holidays Language, Meaning Love Relationships Valentine's Day

What 'Love Your Neighbor' Means by Ken Potts

(February 6, 2021)
We need to assess our attitude…
Topics: Attitudes Love Relationships Religion

A Pandemic Debt by Barbara Greenleaf

(December 19, 2020)
What do our children owe us in the pandemic? …
Topics: Communication Coping COVID-19 Family Loneliness Relationships

Marriage Trends by U.S. Census Bureau staff

(December 12, 2020)
Marriage and divorce decline as cohabitation rises among younger couples…
Topics: Demographics Family Relationships Statistics Trends

Dealing with a Difficult Daughter- or Son-in-Law by Barbara Greenleaf

(November 13, 2020)
What would you recommend for these Dear Abby-like scenarios?…
Topics: Coping Family Relationships

Take Time to Listen by Ken Potts

(September 19, 2020)
Don't just talk—advice for parents (and grandparents)…
Topics: Communication Family Parenting, Parents Relationships

Talking to People You Disagree With by Megan Phelps-Roper / TED ideas

(September 12, 2020)
4 tips to help bring civility to a polarized world…
Topics: Character, Integrity Choices and Decision Making Civility Communication Language, Meaning Politics Racism and Inequality Relationships Social Issues

God is on our side! And theirs? by James N. Watkins

(September 3, 2020)
Finding civility in a polarized society…
Topics: Bible Civility Communication Current Events, News Faith Grace History Love Racism and Inequality Relationships Social Issues Social Media

The Joy of Grandparenting by Barbara Greenleaf

(August 14, 2020)
The ultimate win-win…
Topics: Personal Stories (Biography/Autobiography) Family Grandchildren Gratitute Parenting, Parents Relationships

Changing Racist Hearts (5) by Rusty Wright

(July 23, 2020)
Abolishing the slave trade…
Topics: Change Crime, Justice, Punishment Government History Racism and Inequality Relationships Social Issues Social Movements

Changing Racist Hearts (4) by Rusty Wright

(July 8, 2020)
'Amazing Grace' hymnwriter's racist past…
Topics: Beliefs Change Crime, Justice, Punishment Current Events, News History News Racism and Inequality Relationships Social Issues Social Movements

Changing Racist Hearts (3) by Rusty Wright

(June 25, 2020)
Starting with my own…
Topics: Beliefs Change Current Events, News Faith News Racism and Inequality Relationships Social Issues Social Movements

Changing Racist Hearts (2) by Rusty Wright

(June 19, 2020)
Police brutality: Lessons from South Africa…
Topics: Change Current Events, News History Leadership News Racism and Inequality Relationships Social Issues Social Movements

Changing Racist Hearts by Rusty Wright

(June 15, 2020)
Can it be done?…
Topics: Beliefs Communication Crime, Justice, Punishment Current Events, News Faith News Racism and Inequality Relationships Social Movements

Worthy as a Person by Ken Potts

(April 19, 2020)
People with disabilities shouldn't be considered invalid…
Topics: Civility Compassion Relationships Social Issues

Developing a Child's Self-Esteem (part 1) by Ken Potts

(April 5, 2020)
It's not easy in today's world
Topics: Character, Integrity Discipline Education Family Parenting, Parents Relationships

Will You Still Say Hello? by Stu Johnson

(March 29, 2020)
Connecting in a time of social distancing…
Topics: Communication Coping COVID-19 Crisis Current Events, News Disease News Relationships Wellness

A Parent's Lesson by Ken Potts

(March 21, 2020)
Children grow up in their own way…
Topics: COVID-19 Family Grandchildren Parenting, Parents Relationships

When a Home Breaks by Ken Potts

(February 8, 2020)
Helping children cope with their parent's divorce
Topics: Dysfunctional, Broken Family Grandchildren Relationships

Misbehaving Children by Ken Potts

(January 12, 2020)
Soem tips&helllip;
Topics: Family Parenting, Parents Teaching

Grocery Shopping with Children by Ken Potts

(January 5, 2020)
Learning opportunities abound…
Topics: Choices and Decision Making Family Financial Food & Nuitrition Opportunity Parenting, Parents Relationships Teaching

Kids and Their Fantasies by Ken Potts

(December 15, 2019)
Enjoy them, but with a dose of reality…
Topics: Family Grandchildren Learning Parenting, Parents

Kid with Care by Ken Potts

(November 24, 2019)
Deal openly, honestly with conflict
Topics: Family Relationships Trust

Confronting Marital Problems by Ken Potts

(November 17, 2019)
How counseling can help couples…
Topics: Coping Family Relationships Wellness

Like Their Parents by Ken Potts

(November 3, 2019)
Good or bad, is it inevitable?…
Topics: Character, Integrity Choices and Decision Making Family Parenting, Parents Relationships

Know your limits by Ken Potts

(October 27, 2019)
Why it's important to tell kids…
Topics: Character, Integrity Choices and Decision Making Family Parenting, Parents Relationships Teaching

If you were to ask my Father by Eryn McMillan

(October 26, 2019)
Who knows more about you?…
Topics: Contemplation, Insight Faith Family God Relationships

Healthy Relationships by Ken Potts

(October 20, 2019)
It's hard, but so worth the effort…
Topics: Character, Integrity Choices and Decision Making Communication Relationships Wellness

A Parent's Love by Ken Potts

(September 22, 2019)
It means emotional burdens, sacrifices…
Topics: Family Love Parenting, Parents Relationships

Lessons of Empathy and Good Behavior by Ken Potts

(September 8, 2019)
They have to start at home…
Topics: Attitudes Character, Integrity Choices and Decision Making Family Parenting, Parents Relationships Teaching Values

Can This Marriage be Saved? by Ken Potts

(September 1, 2019)
Tips for saying "yes" (Second of two parts)…
Topics: Choices and Decision Making Coping Family Relationships Unity, Unified Values

He Turned 21 Today by Bill Nichols

(August 26, 2019)
An occasion to pass on a family heirloom…
Topics: Family Memories Personal Issues Tribute, Testimony

Is This Marriage Really for Me? by Ken Potts

(August 25, 2019)
Answering a tough question (first of two parts)…
Topics: Choices and Decision Making Contemplation, Insight Fears, Concerns Love Relationships Trouble

Defining Normal by Ken Potts

(August 18, 2019)
It's harder than it looks…
Topics: Character, Integrity Diversity & Pluralism Relationships Values

Keys to Nurturing Kids by Ken Potts

(August 11, 2019)
Self-control, praise, teach…
Topics: Family Grandchildren Love Parenting, Parents Training Values Wisdom

Family Meals by Ken Potts

(July 28, 2019)
Crazy schedules do not limit their importance…
Topics: Family Lifestyle, General Relationships Values

Parenting Skills by Ken Potts

(July 14, 2019)
They don't necessarily come naturally…
Topics: Character, Integrity Choices and Decision Making Discipline Family Knowledge Parenting, Parents Relationships Values Wisdom

A Successful Marriage by Ken Potts

(July 7, 2019)
It's no easy accomplishment…
Topics: Character, Integrity Circumstances, Life Events Family Love Relationships Values

Helping Men Find the Key to Intimacy by Ken Potts

(June 23, 2019)
Finding a solution to a common problem…
Topics: Communication Dysfunctional, Broken Relationships Wellness

Being an 'Older' Parent by Ken Potts

(June 16, 2019)
It comes with its own ups and downs…
Topics: Family Parenting, Parents Relationships

What Makes Us a Community? by Ken Potts

(January 13, 2019)
A small example…
Topics: Character, Integrity Relationships Values

Raising Kids by Ken Potts

(January 6, 2019)
Tips for holding on and letting go…
Topics: Family Parenting, Parents Relationships Teaching

Raise Up a Child by Stu Johnson

(December 20, 2018)
Learning from each other and God's Word…
Topics: Beliefs Bible Character, Integrity Christian Life Faith Family Relationships Teaching

Loneliness by Stu Johnson

(April 17, 2018)
A problem that often increases with age…
Topics: Communication Compassion Lifestyle, General Loneliness Optimal Aging Relationships Retirement Social Activities Social Issues Social Media

The Word on Marriage by Stu Johnson

(April 6, 2018)
Describing a successful marriage in one word…
Topics: Beliefs Bible Character, Integrity Choices and Decision Making Faith Family Hopes & Dreams Inspiration Language, Meaning Optimal Aging Relationships

Love, Marriage and Sex (2018) by James N. Watkins

(February 9, 2018)
The latest update of Jim's annual list of articles and cartoons…
Topics: Holidays Humor Love Relationships Valentine's Day Values

Humility by Stu Johnson

(January 10, 2018)
Something to be proud of?…
Topics: Attitudes Character, Integrity Christian Life Communication Lifestyle, General Relationships Values

A Necessary Conversation by Stu Johnson

(December 14, 2017)
Straight talk about sex and marriage…
Topics: Beliefs Choices and Decision Making Faith Family Relationships Research Social Issues Social Movements Trends Values

The Virtue of Kindness by Stu Johnson

(November 15, 2017)
How is kindness faring today?…
Topics: Attitudes Character, Integrity Inspiration Relationships Values

8 Things Never to Say When Your Friend Hurts by Bill Nichols

(December 1, 2016)
Do you know what to say when someone is in serious emotional and spiritual pain?…
Topics: Comfort & Consolation Communication Relationships

Tell Her You Love Her by Rusty Wright

(July 22, 2016)
A tribute to a rare jewel…
Topics: Christian Life Dying and Death Disease Family Loss & Grieving Love Relationships Tribute, Testimony

Friendship by Emily Sohn / submitted by Stu Johnson

(July 13, 2016)
Why it matters…
Topics: Communication Friends & Neighbnors Relationships Research Wellness

Top Ten Secrets to Staying Married by James N. Watkins

(June 10, 2016)
Time-tested advice on piling up anniversary celebrations…
Topics: Achievements Birthdays & Annivesaries Faith Family Humor Inspiration Relationships

"Faith of Our Mother's" updated by James N. Watkins

(May 6, 2016)
New words for an old, old song…
Topics: Faith Family Mother's Day Relationships Tribute, Testimony

Make Me a Blessing. What's That? by Bill Nichols

(March 19, 2016)
What does in mean to be a blessing? How can you be a blessing to someone?
Topics: Compassion Faith Relationships

Love, Marriage and Sex . . . by James N. Watkins

(February 11, 2016)
An updated annual collection of cartoons and blogs to celebrate Valentine's Day…
Topics: Holidays Humor Love Relationships Valentine's Day Values

Lovin' Late Bloomers by Wes Wick

(December 26, 2015)
A revived persimmon tree with high-hanging fruit provides a lesson in reaching folks in their later seasons who seem destined to be fruitless…
Topics: Discipleship Inspiration

Falling in Love--and Getting Back Up Again by James N. Watkins

(August 7, 2015)
Thinking about writing a book on love…
Topics: Love

The Age of LoveIt's Never Too Late to Date by Marla Stoker

(June 24, 2015)
Documentary film and speed dating event for seniors provide tips for dating again when you're older…
Topics: Optimal Aging

A Movie for Valentine's Day by Rusty Wright

(February 11, 2015)
There are options for your Valentine's Day movie date this year…
Topics: Inspiration Love Movies Valentine's Day

Valentine, How do I Love Thee? by Rusty Wright

(February 8, 2015)
Fun—and funny—stories about love and communication…
Topics: Communication Love Valentine's Day

Bring Back that Lovin' Feeling by Rusty Wright

(February 1, 2015)
A fun and humorous look at love and relationships…
Topics: Love Valentine's Day